What if you’ve been thinking about this all wrong? — When someone questions my admittedly terrible dating history, I am tempted to challenge the assumption that I’m the problem. After all, why should I be held accountable for other people’s questionable behavior? For a long time, I wondered why all those men couldn’t treat me right and overlooked the obvious…

Here’s your hat, what’s your hurry — I’ve always known that I can survive alone. For a little while there, I just didn’t want to. I gave my heart away like a child putting the last of their coins in a bubblegum ball machine — hands outstretched, waiting for a prize. Never knowing I’d be left waiting…

Are you ready for this? Here’s what really happens … — I love the early morning quiet of a weekend to myself. I’m a single mother. I don’t get a lot of quiet mornings. I have a different kind of appreciation for a morning with my children, but quiet mornings on my own are savored — especially when it’s early enough…

I’ve never considered myself fearful. Even as a child, I was borderline reckless with my bravery. There was no tree I was afraid to climb or height I was afraid to go to. If someone told me I couldn’t do something, I was definitely going to try to do…

“Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.” ~Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie — The harsh reality of gender inequality is that women are held to a double standard. We are expected to be polite at all times and to smile even when we don’t feel happy to maintain a pleasing countenance. We’re held to the standard of a 1950s housewife while maintaining full…

Are you okay with being his contingency plan? — Let’s be honest: Unless you’re playing the field yourself, you probably don’t want to be someone’s option. You want to be the priority — their first choice among all the people they could date. But the reality of dating is that you’re going to start as an option. We all…

To the ones who can’t let go easily, this is for you — Some people get their hooks in our hearts and just won’t let go. We’re trying to pull them out with one hand while holding tightly onto them with the other. It feels impossible to let go, let alone move forward. If you’re here to find out how to let go…

Just when you think joy has escaped you, it arrives again — Plans go awry. That’s life. We can dream our dreams and make our plans, but we cannot control everything. Sometimes, the most carefully crafted dreams come crashing down on us, and we’re left standing in the wreckage wondering what exactly we’re supposed to do next. Grieve. It’s not the answer…

She’s reaching out; will you reach back? — Adoration. Obsession. Both words strike different chords in you, do they not? In horror films, initial adoration tilts into crazed obsession. Cue suspense building, footsteps running action. Luckily, this is not that kind of article. Infatuation can sometimes mirror obsession — without the bunny boiling, of course. When you have…