Half Effort Won’t Ever Equal Whole Partnership

How a Relationship Well Check Can Strengthen Your Partnership

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“You can do it, put your back into it. I can do it, put your ass into it.”
~Ice Cube (“You Can Do It”)

I’m a product of my generation. Like so many of us, I think in song lyrics — whether I want to or not. I was thinking about effort in relationships and how we really need more whole-ass effort, and all I could hear in my head was this song. If you know it or followed the link, it’s probably in your head now, too.

I’m not sure if I should say “I’m sorry” or “You’re welcome”.

Now that we’re all busy low-key singing this song, I can continue with my brain train. We can’t put half-effort into our relationships and expect them to equal whole partnership. It doesn’t really work that way. From what I’ve seen from dating and relationships in my life, it seems like we have too many people failing to put their whole ass into it.

I don’t mean this to be judgmental. I’m sure I’ve done this myself. But I do think it helps to occasionally examine the level of effort we’re putting into our relationships. Consider it a relationship well check — unless you’re currently in a relationship crisis. In that case, consider this urgent care.