Have you heard of sample bias? Of all that I’ve written, if this is your reaction, it may be the pieces you’re choosing to read. I have no interest in acting as a Ms. Manners, with all the sexist connotations that carries with it. I was careful to point out that any gender bias in this piece was a natural extension of being a woman who dates men and can only speak to my own experience-- although many other women report the same. If you find this to be infrequent, you may be protected by male privilege because there’s plenty of evidence that harassment rates for women are higher than for men, and not gauging interest is a significant part of this behavior.