I actually agree with you. I don’t think that it defines intimacy, but I do think it says something about the health of a sexual relationship when one party is experiencing regular orgasms while the other doesn’t. I want to say “in my experience” only it’s more the experience of me and everyone I know that many men define a satisfying sexual encounter as orgasm and see their own orgasms as being the end of said sexual encounter without factoring in women’s pleasure at all. Women are capable of multiple orgasms, so why is one too much to ask, etc, etc. But I don’t relate orgasms with intimacy. I do relate it with healthy sexual encounters, however. Intimacy can be present with or without the involvement of sex. Thank you for reading and for your insights!!