I agree that like attracts like to a certain extent. That's why I changed the way that I date. I don't have as many negative experiences, but I do see a lot of people who "look good on paper" but don't actually match their profiles in terms of behavior. There's still rampant misogyny in the world that women are dealing with--even from men who think they don't have any. I had a man comment that I seem high-maintenance, and I pointed out I wasn't asking anyone else to maintain me so what does it matter? But the fact that he pointed out that it could potentially be problematic says a lot about the way he views women and our needs.

To a large degree, you're right: it's what we make of it. But at the same time, choice and opportunity are factors. Many women are seeing exactly the same thing as I am, which is a dating culture that still prioritizes games over genuine, honest connection.

Thanks for reading and contributing to this discussion!