I can see your perspective, but I also think it's important to make sure any partners are healthy for them and treat them well-- even if they aren't yet ready for us to move on. He might have a different response when I'm actually in a relationship, but I'm going to consider how they feel about any potential partner because they would have to live with them, too. They aren't making the decisions, but they're certainly a factor. I'm sorry your kids are giving you a hard time. They might not be old enough to understand that you are a whole person in addition to being their parents and have needs, too. Hugs from here! Thank you so much for reading and sharing your point of view.