I feel like we've all done it, but have we all learned from it? I don't think it's a matter of perfection so much as learning new ways of disagreeing and dealing with conflict where voices aren't raised, names aren't called, and respect for each person is prioritized. It's a game-changer. But doing any of these just because we're emotional is still abusive. Accepting that can help us develop new coping strategies and communication skills.