I think non-attachment, practiced correctly, is the same as being securely attached in the sense that we have that powerful sense of ourselves and trust in our relationships. In that way, it is the same. I read those same articles and wonder if the writers aren’t just trying to prevent being hurt by not caring as much. After all, I was one of them once. I wrote a non-attachment article at a time when I was going through a breakup, but my greater understanding of attachment now is that I need to be able to securely attach without worrying about relationship outcomes. I’m a work in progress.

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