I'm not sure you're understanding what I mean here. We all are personally responsible for how we live our lives. If you're looking for someone to singlehandedly improve your life, you might be entering a relationship for all the wrong reasons--and will be more likely to have unhealthy ones. However, if you are living your life in accordance with your values and doing the best you can to live a good one, then you are ideally suited to finding a partner who can enhance your life without being responsible for improving it on their own. See the difference? I'm advocating for personal agency, not living a life of peace and luxury when the world is burning.