In my experience, avoidants are more likely to love bomb to obtain the relationship before disengaging when the intimacy becomes overwhelming. I don’t look at the anxious-avoidant connection as having blame. Rather, the anxious person needs to develop stronger boundaries and better communication skills, and the avoidant person needs to learn how to take relationships slowly and how to develop more intimate relationships without running away. There’s work to be done, but love bombing is a red flag and a potential early warning sign for abuse in some cases.

As far as jealousy goes, it’s natural to experience it, but it matters how it’s expressed. Feeling jealous is normal, but making that feeling a partner’s responsibility to manage is unhealthy. Controlling and possessive behavior is not okay. If someone regularly experiences jealousy, they need to work this out in therapy rather than expecting the relationship to accommodate it.

Thanks for reading and engaging in dialogue about it!