Intuitive Dating After Heartbreak
Well-meaning friends offer advice, but we need to trust ourselves
I was probably single for all of five minutes when the advice started rolling in on how to move on or who I should date next. I wanted to curl into a ball of grief and broken dreams, but it seemed like the world around me wanted to showcase the opportunities behind doors I had not yet opened. Even though I had not opened them for a reason.
I’ve heard of intuitive eating, but I started thinking about intuitive dating. I had no choice about transitioning from coupled to single, but I could choose to trust my intuition as I moved through this experience. While all the advice flowing around me revolved around “getting under to get over” or “getting my groove back”, I knew on a deep and instinctive level that this was terrible advice for me. I didn’t need to push forward. I needed to accept where I am right now.
Where I am right now is complicated. I am experiencing equal parts love and grief, but I’ve also been able to transition into a friendship, something I never even wanted to attempt before now. I have been working to accept a change I did not want and to envision a new future while sweeping up the pieces of the one that is broken now. Nothing about this is simple, but I am learning to trust myself to make the best decision…
