Sometimes, I don't "got this" though. That's my point. I know that I'm resilient. I don't need the reminder. Sometimes, I need help, and instead, I get platitudes and encouragement instead of the help that I need. That's why I emphasize "you've got this" as one of the phrases that resilient people don't want to hear. When we say we're drowning, we're reminded of our strength. That's not the same thing as a helping hand so that we can get our heads above water. It feels like screaming into the void sometimes because I might sincerely need help, and all I'm getting is meaningless words of affirmation when I need practical assistance. I appreciate that you read this, and I know that you're trying to be encouraging. Unfortunately, it comes across as invalidating for those reasons. I know that's not the intention, but I'm tired of being resilient. I'd actually liked to be helped sometimes. It's hard to ask for it when I know that I usually get this kind of response without any genuine offer of assistance.