Thank you for sharing this! I feel like you're on the right track. That's all we can do, right? Work on ourselves, stay accountable. We can't do more than that.

One of the most significant things I've done is holding myself accountable for what I see when I'm dating--especially in the early parts. I don't let myself ignore red flags. I ask questions. I pay attention. When I see a sign that someone isn't compatible, I don't agree to meet them. I don't give chemistry a chance to form when I already see that we aren't compatible. I move on. I used to allow that spark to convince me we could make it work. I don't let myself off the hook anymore by ignoring reality in favor of a fantasy. It's hard in a way, but it's been so rewarding. Each time, that decision gets affirmed in some way and lets me know I'm on the right track.

Maybe I'm on this track alone. Maybe I meet someone. Either way, I'm planning on a happy, well-lived life. Thanks for sharing your journey with me!