Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. The impact of our actions does matter more than our intentions. Using harmful, misogynistic language is actively harmful, so it doesn't matter if it was intended as a compliment. Also, lessening the impact of words isn't as simple as deciding not to be hurt by them. Verbal abuse is just as significant as physical abuse, and it's not a matter of "letting" them be. They simply are. It's dismissive and invalidating to suggest that people who are verbally assaulted are somehow playing the victims when they are unable to avoid the harm that results from it. I don't like to argue for argument's sake. I feel like I said exactly what I meant as I meant it in terms of the language used in dating and how important it is to treat other people with a little human dignity. I agree that we are responsible for our own actions and can't control others. That is exactly why I'm using my skill and platform to address an issue that is actively harmful to women. I can't make people stop using the term, but I can certainly draw attention to how harmful and demeaning it is in our culture. I hope some people who read this realized why it's so incredibly inappropriate. I appreciate your contribution to the dialogue here.