Your comments weren't the problem. I don't think the issue is attractiveness. I think men are hearing that instead of hearing us. If I only swipe on 1-3 guys out of 10, it's likely because of red flags in their profile, not based on looks alone. Incompatible values, no information in the profile, holding a fish, negative comments in profile, etc. It's not superficial. It's about finding a compatible match.

It's strange to me that men always fall back on attractiveness. But women are saying we want to see better behavior. Attraction is just "congratulations on your face". It doesn't mean anything about your personality or value system. Women are repeatedly saying that we're looking for better men, not better looking men. And men aren't hearing us. They don't need to get hotter; they need therapy. I'm not saying that it's not also true for women, but women aren't in the comments section making it all about how people look.